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The mind and body connection…or disconnection

I mentioned on my Instagram stories about the connection between your emotions and body, and how emotional things can show up in physical ailments. The mind/body connection is powerful but can’t always be “seen”.

Have you ever walked into a room and “the tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife”? What you’re feeling is negative energy, or a negative vibe/vibration. Likewise, expressing gratitude would generate positive energy or a positive vibe/vibration.

Often when energy is talked about people get weirded out and call it all sorts of things. But the truth is, it’s energy.

Emotions and experiences are essentially energy and can be stored in the cellular memory of our bodies. Have you ever experienced something in your life that left an emotional mark or pain in a certain area of your body? Almost as if you can still feel something that may have happened to you? It is likely because in that area of your body you still hold energy released from that experience that has lingered in the body. This picture (from google images) depicts what various emotions might affect in the body.

When there is have pain, tightness, or injuries in certain areas, it can be related to something emotionally you are feeling within yourself. At first glance it may not seem this way because we are usually very out of touch with ourselves and our emotions. It’s taken me years to understand this (because I fought the concept for so long), but it’s often the truth.

I have used several resources to deal help heal the emotional pain that has showed up physically. Here are two quick books for you to check out that give you a stp by step guide on how to work on these emotions from home. 

Feelings Buried Alive Never Die from Karol Truman and Heal Your Body by Louise Hay. 

One of the reasons I think it was hard for me to wrap my head around is because I wasn't raised around it. It was foreign. Instead, I too adopted a false belief that emotions are bad and to just deal with it. What is interesting is that I took a poll several weeks ago on my Instagram page and over 200 people participated in it. Check out these numbers. It looks like I wasn't the only one who was taught that. I know now to EMBRACE whatever emotion it is, feel it, deal with it THEN heal it!

When I’ve had chronic pain in my back, knees, or neck, it wasn’t exercise or any kind of medication that healed it; it was when aligned my body with an adjustment and then dealt with the emotions behind it that it went away.

I know this because I spent the time and money doing the other stuff and even though I wanted and believed I would get better, something still wasn’t being addressed. The more I addressed the unconscious thought patterns, false beliefs and trapped emotions in various parts of my body, the more things loosened up and the pain went away.

Trust me when I say it’s all a learning process; we don’t have to judge or fear it, or even accept it. I suggest just trying it.

If you’re thinking about trying it, I’d love to gift you a FREE 15 minute call- just send me a an email!

I look forward to helping you start your healing journey!! 

A picture is worth a thousand words…

Quick question . . . what is this? 

Let me guess . . . Did you say, "iPhone" ?  While yes, that is TRUE - this iPhone is also a calculator, camera, email, health monitor, ticket holder, credit card, TV, weather channel, film maker  telephone, typewriter, wallet, social media device, ​etc. It is black, it is rectangle, it is movable, it is fragile and so on. 

HOW in the world can one picture have so many different words attached to it? "A picture is worth a thousand words." I completely agree!  Isn't that interesting - did you think of different words that I didn't put in those boxes above? Why?

SO many words are encapsulated in this tiny square picture. I LOVE this picture that I took in Whistler, outside of Vancouver BC in Canada a couple of years ago. This picture reminds me to stand tall despite raging waters. It reminds me to continue to go with the flow and to be adaptable like water. It reminds me that there is beauty all around and to find it, it reminds me to slow down and continually move towards God and to trust Him. It’s a lesson I continually am reminded of but I’m grateful again and again that I am reassured that God knows me!

Clarity

Adventure

​Relaxation

Strength​

Beauty

Vibrance

Adventure

Memories

Weakness

Peace

​Love

and 1,000 more things!​

So, what's my point? My point is this:  sometimes we may feel like an answer to a problem or a prayer is obvious and yet sometimes it takes a little digging because it can be multifaceted.  As a Life Coach one of my goals is to help you look at things differently. Because I too practice the things I teach teach, tonight I mentally mind dumped stumbling blocks in my head onto a virtual blanket. When I say mental blocks I mean the blocks of my life; my story, key people, situations, jobs, lessons and experiences to sort through them. Often as you do this images show up during your sorting process.

For me, the Whistler Picture at the top is one that came to my mind.  It was as if I could feel the air for a brief moment. This is one of the most beautiful places I’ve seen.

If you get to a place where you are stuck in your mind, caught up with life, ruminating situations...FIRST of all breathe! Picture in your mind somewhere that brings you peace and start unloading all of your blocks to rearrange them. I promise it will calm your mind chatter, give you a new perspective and create a space for you to reconnect and plug back into the truest version of you, your true self.

When you use the same way of thinking you get the same results. It takes hard work to think differently but once you get the hang of it, you see your life transforming. 

 Where is one place in your life where you feel "stuck"?​

Lean into change…

“Permanence is an illusion. There is a constant in the universe and that is change.”                    - Heraclitus

I loved many different things during my college years. It was in college where I came out of my "shy shell" (true story that most people find hard to believe), I found my voice, I went without a lot of sleep, I went spotlighting for rabbits, building forts, climbing towers, jumping into cotton bails, lighting fires, watching creepy movies in the desert and all kinds of shenanigans.  You might guess I went to college in a small town and I LOVED the changes I learned about myself there. (Oh and the little bit of learning) Those were good years filled with memories I’ll always cherish.

A few years later (cough, cough)  things and ways that I love are a quite different. I love supportive people, I live for real conversations, I'm constantly learning tools to share with others, I am obsessed with snuggling babies, I enjoy having dinner with funny friends, lake trips, my hydroflask full of ice water, people doing their best to live with kindness and of course eating mangos on the beach!

Quite different wouldn't you agree?

We all face changes every day – whether it is a simple change of the weather, our schedule or what we choose to eat. We each deal with change in a different way and change affects us each differently as well. For the most part, we generally deal with the natural daily ebb and flow of life and struggles with  small changes we see and make every day.  However, sometimes there is a change that jumps out of nowhere and totally shakes you to what may feel like all the way to the core. Sound familiar?

These changes can be job changes, marriage, illness, the birth of a child, a recent empty nest or even something as major as a crippling diagnosis or even the death of a loved one – all of which have a different magnitude of how they impact your life. No matter the change we experience, how we embrace that change will forever impact how we are able to live with it.

Change is constant. When a person is trying to be a better person, they will find that friends not be on board with the changes because it effects them.  There’s no need to apologize when a stage of life changes! You’re in a different place. I hope I continue to embrace and love change as it occurs. I have learned that growth as a person and positive change is always a GOOD thing even if the process is hard.

However, change is difficult for people. For some of us, it’s pure laziness. But for others, we don’t like the lack of control or the uncertainty of worse outcomes, bruised egos, embarrassment or failing. People also seem to hate losing more than they love winning.

But, if you don’t learn to embrace change and if you don’t move forward, you will be left behind. So, whether it’s changing the focus of your business, having to learn new technology or replacing a prized employee, you need to know how to deal with change.

What do you love about your life that has come about because of change?

God, are you aware of me?

Tell me I’m not the only one who ever wonders if God is even listening to my prayers? Actually, you don’t have to tell me, I already know that answer. . . You too have felt that before.

Lately I have felt like my prayers have bounced off my ceiling and stayed in my space ‘not ever reaching heaven.’ I have prayed, I have done the ugly cry, I have expressed frustration, I have stress eaten, I have complained, I have taken naps to hide from my self annoyance, I have meditated, I have sworn and I have gotten sick...such a great (or ridiculous) process.

Oh my gosh, does this sound somewhat familiar to you?

Recently I had a darling young mother in my office as we worked through some postpartum “baby blues”. When I gave her one of her homework assignments, I nearly choked on my words thinking about how I need to do the very thing I just asked her to do! One of her 'fun work/home work' assignments was to pray and ask JUST ONE question. "God, are you aware of me?"

Nearly 20 years ago (it's so crazy how quickly time flies!) I was a young missionary for my church in North Dakota.   I got a phone call in the middle of the night and as I answered I heard my crying-but-trying-to-hold-it-together Mom's voice. I panicked - for several reasons.

1. As missionaries for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints your main focus is on other people, to teach them about Jesus Christ. You're allowed to call home twice a year: Christmas and Mother's Day. It was no where near those days.

2.  Her 'trying to be happy' voice - in the middle of the night - was not fooling me that this phone call would result in anything besides sadness.  My sweet mom tried to be so strong through her tears as shared the news that my Dad was in the hospital going in for surgery because he had cancer in his kidneys. Are. You. Kidding. Me? Seriously!?

Of course I cried, I wanted to come home and be with my family, I was so angry with God because how could he do this to our family when I was dedicating my life serving Him and His children? I threw quite the tantrum let me tell you.

I am grateful for an incredible Mission President who handled this situation with the utmost love and concern.  My entire mission (over 200 missionaries), multiple church congregations, and strangers alike all joined together in fasting and prayer in my Dad’s behalf.  

My Mission President gave me ONE assignment (which has impacted my life for YEARS as I continually share with others to use the same principle.)   He said, “When you pray tonight ask God ONE question. God, are you aware of ME? And then be still and listen.”

Friends, I’ll tell you I didn’t so much as say “God” and I KNEW, felt his living embrace that he knows EXACTLY who I am and what my struggles are!  God answered my prayer then, and has many times since then when I ask him the same question.

From time to time we somehow forget that God does care, that he is aware of our situations no matter the struggle and it is ok for us to have the need to be reminded that it’s ok to feel like we are alone (although we never are).  It's ok to ask God if he knows us, our struggles, our joys, our dreams, our frustrations be, our hopes and dreams.

Yesterday I hugged my Dad as he left town to go visit my sister in a different city. I am grateful that God answered our prayers of YES at that time and that my Dad is still with us. It isn't always the case - God doesn't always give us what we want - but He does give us what will help us grow!

So,  the answer is YES! God isn’t only aware of me, or my family, He too is aware of YOU and whatever YOU are struggling with. Talk to Him. If you are struggling and feel your prayers might be bouncing off your ceiling will you ask one question? 

"God, are you aware of me?"