Finding the REAL you!

We all have this innate sense of belonging and we each look for it in different situations, people and places. But have you ever looked INSIDE to see if you ‘belong’ right where you are?  I love the quote by Mo Williams, “If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.”  In other words, if you don’t like the way things are going… make a change!

With her permission, I want to share with you a story about my friend Ruth and why on her last visit to my office she left this sweet note.

ONE CHOICE changed the course of her life! First, let me share a little insight to my work environment, as that’s where I met her.Ruth

For the past 6+ years I have worked at a functional medicine/integrative health/wellness center. I have amazing doctors and staff members who literally change peoples lives!

Ruth is a darling 70 yr old woman that came to see Dr. Childs due to her health issues. After she met with Dr. Childs, he had me present a couple of different health plan options to her. Ruth and I chatted about her life a little bit. There was something about her reminded me of MY sweet Mom. Ruth was meek and soft spoken, timidly courageous but cheerful. You could just feel that she was ready to make a change. A real change. I just wanted to stand up and give her a hug, to be honest (but I didn’t….yet!).  I awkwardly told her that I couldn’t continue telling her about the simple plan.  I pulled out a much more intrusive plan that included: Doctor visits to manage medications, Chiropractic adjustments to align her body to make changes, nutrition coaching with food changes, emotional coaching with getting real with the lies we tell ourselves, detox therapies that can exhaust you, mind relaxation and more. In my heart (as in God was absolutely directing my words to her!) I KNEW this is what she needed….so I told her about it. She looked at me and with emotion asked what I would do if it was my mom. Ok, I may have had a tear when I answered.  Ruth put her hand on mine and said, “Ok, I want to do that!” I think I was just as shocked as she was! Most people think about it, pray about it – but not Ruth. . . she was ready. Something told me she had already prayed about it and thought about it!  And just like that, Ruth was my friend. I wanted what was the very best for her!

So with that, Ruth started a 12 week program. You know what? SHE. DID. AWESOME! Seriously, I am so so inspired by her! Through the course of her program she found the strength to make emotional changes, physical changes, nutritional changes and it was SO fun to watch her become her best version of herself! Each week as she came in she would stop by my office and either thank me or give me a hug. I loved it! (also HUGE sidenote…through her changes she cured her diabetes. TRUE STORY! Told ya she’s amazing!)

Near the end of her program she came into my office to chat for a minute. She told me that she wanted to share something with me….

It went something like this: My name is actually Karen to everyone else in my life. {Uh, what did we just get catfished?? Ha ha!} She told me that she has had a hard life from being the youngest in her family to her marriages and health. She had been looking for answers for 30 years about her health and there they were…answered in our office!

Ruth said that when she came to our facility it was to make changes and so she started with changing her name to one she had always wanted to be like…Ruth from the Holy Bible. I mean, none of us knew ‘Karen’ so why not? Ruth it was. I was shocked to say the least.  Ruth (her name is actually Ruth Karen O.) shared more of her life and her reasons as to why she did that. I’ll admit, I teared up right there with her…because from the minute I met her, to me she WAS/IS Ruth. She IS compassionate, courageous, meek, determined and loving.

She thanked me again for suggesting how I would care for my mom so that she could embrace the person she has always been…Ruth.  So many call her Karen, but to me, she will always be my sweet friend Ruth!

 

You are enough!

I am enoughIf you smile long enough you can actually fool yourself.  But your soul knows better. It knows that it needs to heal.  I love the quote, “You have to feel it to heal it.” When a person decides its time to be real, they realize that there are walls held so high in attempts to protect the heart that was so hurt. But it’s never too late…and you are worth it!  (And your walls can actually come down with a little help!)

I think if there were a list of affirmations issued at birth, a list may look a little something like this:

1. You are unique. No one will ever be like you. Be comfortable with being you as you are.

2. You are enough. No matter what! There is nothing to add, but feel free to expand.

3. Failure is not the end. Do not be embarrassed by failure, learn from it and start again.

4. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive every which way. Forgive him. Forgive her. Forgive God for not doing things the way you want them done. Forgive you for choices you’ve made.

5. Compassion is the ultimate expression to your highest self. Compassion means you see people as people, and not objects or interferences.

6. In the end, as in the beginning: You. Are. Amazing. Enjoy this life to the end!

So how do you start to realize that you enough? Well you have to work at it. Being kind to yourself in everyday life is in in my experience one of the best things you can do for yourself.You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will change. To make a positive change with that simply start a new habit today. One of kindness and love towards yourself!

Try it….because you, my friend, ARE enough!

Is a Life Coach for you?

Chances are you may have never heard of the term “Life Coach” before.  Some people fear having a ‘coach’ because they “don’t want to know what’s wrong with them.” I have heard that so many times.

But it’s not a matter of what’s wrong, as its more of what’s missing.

That’s a BIG difference!

A life coach is almost like a basketball coach, that teaches you drills, plays both offensively and defensively. The only difference is…the basketball is your life.coach
A coach is one who can look at you and see the potential for you to achieve all that you desire. Through specific strategies and skills, a life coach helps you define yourself and create the life you envision. Wouldn’t that be great? Think about what it is that you desire to be doing every day, a coach will help you remove blockades to attain those goals!

A coach will help you focus, provide direction, challenge you, support you, motivate you and celebrate with you.

Life coaches help you create a plan with detailed action steps. A coach will hold you accountable for following through.

It should be mentioned that coaches do not counsel or analyze the past. Life coaching is based on the principle that the client has the intrinsic ability to determine and achieve their goals. Everything is based on the present and what you want to achieve moving forward.

Coaches work with all types of clients from people who are full of momentum and want to take life to the next level to people who are stuck and need a coach to nudge them in the right direction.

So, wether you’re a parent struggling to find a balance of being a “fun mom” or a teenager who doesn’t know how to make a decision of what to do next – as a coach, I’m here to help you find the answers within yourself!